As part of our newly revived date series, it was Julian’s turn to take his Mama out on the town last night. Since Julian is a very complicated human being, it took us 30 minutes just to get out of the house.
Under tears Julian confided in me that he didn’t want to dress up because he doesn’t like when people pay attention to the way he looks. That took me a bit by surprise, because it came from a kid who generally likes as much positive attention as he can get.
I told him that a) I’d rather he not dress up and feel comfortable so we can have a good time and b) that it shouldn’t matter what people say about what he’s wearing, whether their opinions are favorable or not and c) that sometimes it’s nice to put yourself in second place and think about what would make someone else happy, and maybe by doing something nice for someone else you will feel better, too.
Who knows if any of this was right, but in the end he didn’t dress up, and he looked lovely to me anyway.
We took the subway to the West Village and checked out a place I’d been wanting to show Julian called Chess Forum. They have the coolest chess pieces, and you get to play!
Afterwards we went to a Mexican restaurant on the same block, ate lots of tacos and played “Exploding Kittens.”
To make our night complete, we got ourselves some treats at a Mexican dessert place. Delicious!
I see so much of myself in Julian; sometimes we butt heads so easily. Sometimes we are both too stubborn. Sometimes we are overly sensitive. Sometimes our insecurities get the better of us. But in the end we adore each other, and a night like last night was an important reminder of how much.